Within the dumbling world

I always wonder about the end of this world. People are killing each other,countries are fighting .. whats the end of this. I never understand why people don't understand the value of human life.

THE POWER OF POSITIVE TALK

By Dr. ABDUL KALAM

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did. fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal . You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk."

They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil.

Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor.

You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't.

Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not.

I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

 Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me.

I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.

Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.

Ø Try: Presupposes failure.

Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.

Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..

Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.

Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.) Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.

Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:

Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"

Likely result: Drops the ball

Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."

Likely result: Watches more television.

Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise:

Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them

Thoughts of Life

It's a funny thing, the more I practice the luckier I get.

Arnold Palmer

 

 

 

 

If I had eight hours to chop down a tree, I'd spend six sharpening my ax.

Abraham Lincoln

 

Do what you can with what you have where you are.

Theodore Roosevelt

Do not confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but does not make any progress.

Alfred A. Montapert

 

Knowledge becomes wisdom only after it has been put to practical use.

Unknown

 

 

 

 

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.

Michael Jordan

 

 

Do not wait for extrordinary circumstances to do good; try to use ordinary situations.

Jean Paul Richter

 

 

 

 

Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs.

Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.

 

 

 

 

Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there.

Josh Billings

 

 

 

 

 

You see things and say 'Why?';

but I dream things that never were and I say 'Why not?' ".

 

George Bernard Shaw

 

 

 

 

 

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.

 

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A good idea will keep you awake during the morning, but a great idea will keep you awake during the night.

Marilyn Vos Savant

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.

Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.

Carl Sandburg

 

 

If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying.

 

Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

 

 

Footprints on the sands of time are never made by sitting down.

Unknown

The future depends on what we do in the present.

Mahatma Gandhi

A loser seldom lives in the present, but instead destroys the present by focusing on past memories or future expectations.

Muriel James

 

Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday.

 

John Wayne

 

 

 

 

 

He who seeks rest finds boredom. He who seeks work finds rest.

Unknown

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.

If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

Dale Carnegie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie; for an excuse is a lie guarded.

Alexander Pope

Because

Niney-nine percent of failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.

George W. Carver

 

Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve.

Find another way. And don't pray when it rains if you don't pray when the sun shines.

Satchel Paige

 

If you envy successful people, you create a negative force field of attraction that repels you from ever doing the things that you need to do to be successful. If you admire successful people, you create a positive force field of attraction that draws you toward becoming more and more like the kinds of people that you want to be like.

Brian Tracy

 

When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you.

Lao-Tzu

 

Every artist was first an amateur.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.

Dale Carnegie

 

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

- Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Don't worry over what other people are thinking about you.

They're too busy worrying over what you are thinking about them.

Unknown

 

 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Albert Einstein

 

If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.

W.L. Bateman

 

 

If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system.

Unknown

 

 

 

 

Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.

Og Mandino

 

Remember that failure is an event, not a person.

Unknown

 

If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry.

Worry never fixes anything.

Mary Hemingway

 

An age is called Dark Age, not because the light fails to shine, but because people refuse to see it.

James Michener

 

 

Don't criticize what you don't understand, son. You never walked in that man's shoes.

Elvis Presley

 

 

 

 

Have the courage to act instead of react.

Earlene Larson Jenks

 

 

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines.

Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover.

Mark Twain

The Colors Of India

A Memo From God

I am God. Today I will be handling all of Your problems. Please remember that I do not Need your help. If life happens to deliver a Situation to you that you cannot handle, do not attempt to resolve it. Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box. All situations will be resolved, But in My time, not yours. Once the matter is placed into The box, do not hold onto it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the Wonderful things that are present in your life now. If you find yourself stuck in Traffic; Don't despair. There are people in this world For whom driving is an unheard of privilege. Should you have a bad day at Work; Think of the man who has been Out of work for years. Should you despair over a Relationship gone bad; Think of the person who has Never known what it's like to love and be loved in return. Should you grieve the passing of Another weekend; Think of the woman in dire Straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her Children. Should your car break down, Leaving you miles away from assistance; Think of the paraplegic who Would love the opportunity to take that walk. Should you notice a new gray Hair in the mirror; Think of the cancer patient in Chemo who wishes she had hair to examine. Should you find yourself at a Loss and pondering what is life all about, asking what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who Didn't live long enough to get the opportunity. Should you find yourself the Victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or Insecurities; Remember, things could be worse. You could be one of them! Should you decide to send this To a friend; Thank you, you may have touched Their life in ways you will never know!